Jul 102016
 

So, I am not at all political. I do not read the news except for an occasional moment when I think I should be more aware. I joke (truthfully) that all I need to know about the world is on Facebook – or my husband tells me. ๐Ÿ˜› 

As I do my best to ignore the amazing racist activities going on around the world in countries that are supposed to be the leaders of the globe, it is hard to shut my eyes and ears to everything. 

If the point of attempt to avoid separation and division then why is #blacklivesmatter being promoted? 

Now I am not saying the atrocities that are happening currently or have occurred in the past are not worthy of frustration, anger and sadness. They are beyond words. However, this constant rhetoric around who matters more or less is not what we should focus on. 

All lives matter. The Asian-American communities are not out there protesting, inciting rage or blaming the white people for their problems. The Hispanic community is the same. There might be pockets of outbursts but just because they are not out causing the media to take notice does not mean they also do not suffer or the many other micro-communities around the world. 

All lives matter. When we ALL stop to get some perspective and realize this truth, then maybe just maybe then we can have real meaningful and purposeful conversations to achieve peace amongst mankind. 

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Day 15:  What season are you grateful for?

While I realize that this question is probably referring to one of the four seasons that few are lucky enough to experience full cycles of year to year, I am choosing to use the meaning of season as a period of time. The “season” or period of time that I am most grateful for is one of peace. This is usually experienced for some time after a period of war. Populations are decimated relieving the earth of stress in its resources. Countries are devastated and thus people focus together to rebuild and restore. These are the times when mankind comes together and lives in peace. 

In our current state of rage, hate and anger around the world it is building to a boiling point. It is frightening and yet perhaps we need it so that we can return to a time of peace. ๐Ÿ˜

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

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Jul 092016
 

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_The Robber Bride_ by Margaret Atwood

My foray into Margaret Atwood is spotty. It seems that I come across her books quite by accident. The first one I ever read by Atwood was _The Blind Assassin_, which I picked up at a thrift shop somewhere when I was visiting my parents. I devoured that finding it very interesting. Then, a friend of mine from graduate school recommended _The Handmaiden’s Tale_, which I picked up one day and was hooked. I, then, got into her _Oryx and Crake_ trilogy (the last of which I will write about soon). So, when I came across this title in the discounted books on campus, I had to give it a go.

Since my summer plans have been altered somewhat, I can still maintain my poolside reading even if it is in ‘staycation’ mode. ๐Ÿ˜› Also, as most of my days are not always easy to fill up completely, having a good book to read helps. So, I started this and took just about a week to complete (it is not a thin book).

While I think I had a bit of a hard time believing the main thread about Zenia, I thoroughly enjoyed the craft of weaving three (four) women’s stories connected by the one thread. I cannot say that I truly ever got what the message was for the book as I can generally get from her other novels. However, I still enjoyed the read. I would say, though, it is not her strongest novel.

By the way, I have returned to paper books lately…. I am not sure why, though I did read the Patterson book from yesterday on my Kindle app. Just an interesting (or not so much) observation for the moment. ๐Ÿ˜€

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Day 14:  What sight are you grateful for today?

I am guessing that this means like a scenery or view rather than the ability to see….Another difficult one to answer when I consider all of the sights I have seen in my travels. From the heights of Machu Picchu to the god-like structures of Egypt or the natural beauties of mountain and sea, how does one choose? However, in this question, the key for me is ‘today’. Therefore, today, I am grateful for the sight of my husband when I woke up this morning. He’s my sunshine each day and when I hear his voice, I smile. ๐Ÿ˜€ Yep, of all the wonders I have seen, today I am most grateful to see my sweet husband!

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 082016
 

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_The Murder House_ by James Patterson

In my quest to keep distracting myself and still enjoy the long Eid weekend, I decided to give myself a little reprieve from my four other books I am reading and have some ‘holiday’ pleasure.

This title popped up on my Goodreads recommended list and I put it on m wishlist to save for later. I think it came up again for a discounted rate, so I went ahead and bought it. Boy, am I glad that I did.

Despite Patterson’s tendencies to write formulaic stories, I must say this one kept me going straight to the very end. I was left guessing and changing my mind page to page on who was the killer. The story worked well and I ploughed through it in just over a 24-hr period. Not bad! ๐Ÿ˜€ Of course, it helps that I keep waking up most nights and cannot go back to sleep… ๐Ÿ˜›

Definitely recommend this one and am glad to be entertained again by a Patterson quick read.

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Day 13:  What abilities are you grateful for?

Hm…I think I am most grateful for the ability to love. I can come across as fairly harsh with my black & white way of thinking. I tend to have a harsh manner and may be perceived as rough around the edges at times. However, once this tough exterior is penetrated, I do love deeply, fiercely and for forever. I am grateful that I do not love at whim, but that I am given the freedom to be a bit picky about my loving and then am able to let love flow! Yes, I am grateful for the ability to love. I think we need much more of this in the world especially in our current times. ๐Ÿ˜

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 072016
 

Yesterday I wrote on the idea of saturation within yoga. After I wrote, I began to consider this more and recalled how I have often felt annoyed towards those who simply went for a two-month TEFL certification to be ‘qualified’ to teach English as a foreign language – something that I spent two years studying extremely hard on to be able to call myself a professional in the TESOL world. Of course, I know that my qualification will likely outshine someone with only a few months training; still, it feltย like such things cheapen the field.

The same sense wasย starting to stirย regarding yoga. I am spending a year studying the way of life of yoga to gain a 300-hr certification. Some people can go (even I recently considered this) for a two-week stint to get a 200-hr certification and be “just as qualified” to then begin to teach yoga. In fact, one might say they are ‘more qualified’ because they have a certification sooner. However, someone who goes to an ashram and spends months or years there to immerse themselves into the way of life of a yogi may feel the same about me. ๐Ÿ˜

This makes me consider, has the concept of elitism disappeared? I remember in my college days I really disliked my friends having elitist attitudes. We went to a ‘high-brow’ liberal university for Oregon and many students there were very intelligent. Still, I was not comfortable with encouraging an attitude of ‘us’ vs ‘them’. Division is not the answer – or so I thought.

However, there is something to be said about mastering a craft and being proud of this mastery. Actors who can recite Shakespeare’s many plays off the cuff are masters of their craft. Authors who compete with the classics of Tolstoy or Hemingway are masters of their craft. Artists who create original pieces that resonate amidst the greats are masters of their craft. What about all those others who also call themselves actors, writers and artists butย do not reach these same levels of mastery? Is there anything wrong with having a plethora of people in these fields who are aspirants rather than gurus?

Honestly, no.

In fact, a guru is not a guru without aspirants. Thus, in my contemplations of saturation and too many people joining particular fields, I realized that the universe is very large and I would be/am arrogant to think that there is not room for everyone in every field. There is enough abundance and room for everyone to be successful at what they do – at any level. No one can take away from another’s success because we each have our own unique spin and qualities within the same fields. There are enough people in the world who will want to learn English from a variety of English teachers. There are enough people in the world who will want to learn yoga from the various styles and instructors. There are enough people in the world who will read what others write or appreciate art of a particular artist.

So, I return to my college way of thinking – division is not the answer. Friendly competition is healthy to motivate and keep us developing, but division is never the answer. We do not need to have ‘elite’ status, but rather aim to continue living life with integrity, pride, honesty, joy, compassion and the sharing of our individual talents with the world to make it a better place day by day. ๐Ÿ˜€

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Day 12: ย What texture are you grateful for?

Textures…when I think of textures I immediately think of the ones I do not like when it comes to food. However, that is not the purpose of this gratitude challenge. Therefore, the texture I think I am most grateful for is fleece or something similar to this. Fleece brings me warmth and makes me feel cozy. Even though I live in the hot desert, I am often cold inside and love to pop on my fleece lounge pants (much to my husband’s dismay). It puts a smile on my face to feel the soft fleece on my skin – so thank you very much for fleece! ๐Ÿ˜›

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 062016
 

Why I have not written about such a big part of my life sooner, I am not sure; but it is appropriate for me to now write a bit about yoga.

Yoga has become massively popular recently and is growing in its trend around the world. While I sense that it may become saturated like many things do when the masses decide they want to jump on the bandwagon and ’embrace’ it to the point of becoming a yoga instructor or labeling themselves a yogi, I want to be clear that this is NOT the case with me. Perhaps this is even part of the reason why I have not written about it sooner.

Union or yoke is the meaning of yoga. Union and yoke with the world, others, the universe, the self (conscious and subconscious). Yoga is not just a fitness activity – though some use it for such. Yoga is a way of life and a pathway to letting go of the self (ego). The benefits of yoga are health, flexibility, calm, compassion and peace in believing we are all where we should and need to be in this moment.

When I see posts or videos of bikini yoginis (female practitioners) or flexible yogis (male practitioners), I am actually put off by the yoga movement. This is NOT what yoga is about. Those who study yoga philosophy and practice with true focus do not wish to show the world what one is capable of – for that is the ego showing off – defeats the number one belief of yoga: ย to let go of the self.

On the other hand, I am in some ways joining the market saturation as this is my new business. I am becoming a yoga instructor, life coach and wellness trainer. Although I may need to post some pictures of poses or write some posts on my business site about these topics, it is definitely not to show off. My Instagram account will not be filled with me doing all the crazy advanced poses possible (by the way, I am not there yet anyway!), but rather with basic poses and tips to encourage people to embrace the way of life so that the world is spread with more compassion, peace and contentment starting with the individual.

Soon I will share my business site here as well, but until then remember not to get sucked in to all this yoga hype! Find out for yourself what it really means and then give it a try for at least 3 months to see what it can do for your own health and well-being.

Sunshine & lightness!

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Day 11: ย What holiday are you grateful for?

These are good general questions leaving room for interpretations. Holiday can mean an official one or ‘school’ ones, right (i.e. spring break, summer, etc.)? I am going to go with an American official holiday called Thanksgiving. After all, I am American, right?! Besides, we are not the only country with a Thanksgiving (Canada). While we could argue over the origins of the holiday and discuss the dirty politics of how it ever came to be – again, let us just skip over that to the happy thoughts! ๐Ÿ˜€

Having been away from my family on this holiday for so many years I cannot really count, I always make a point of celebrating Thanksgiving proper American-style each year. One reason for this is to give thanks to those in my life who become my family abroad. Since many, or shall I say most, of my friends are not American, it is also a chance for me to share a piece of my culture. Thanksgiving in my house has always been a close family affair. I have enjoyed it more than Christmas! I mean, who wouldn’t want to eat over getting gifts??? ๐Ÿ˜› So, it is even fitting to say I am grateful for Thanksgiving as a holiday….

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 052016
 

Day 10: ย What taste are you grateful for today?

This is a strange question, no? Taste…? Have you ever considered a taste to be grateful for before? Hm… ๐Ÿ˜› Well, technically choosing taste would be salty, sweet, bitter and the like, right? If this is the case, then I am grateful for the taste of sourness – or whatever taste is most related to kimchi! ๐Ÿ˜€ I do love my kimchi. I almost always have some in the fridge and if I do not eat it regularly I definitely get cravings for it. While others might crave sweets, I crave the joyful taste of kimchi! Yep, I know it is an acquired taste, but once you acquire it – oh how delightfully delicious it is!

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Yesterday, America celebrated its 240th anniversary of independence from Britain. It seems also rather ironic that in this same year, Britain will have claimed independence from the European Union. Unlike the independence of the United States promising freedom and prosperity, the BrExit bodes poorly for the English nation.

However, setting aside the negative nasties of politics and any obvious possibility of discussion on the decline of the U.S., let us focus on the gratitudes we can have towards my adopted country!

When I talk about freedom as one of my values, there is no other country that allows me such. When I think about integrity and honesty, I think of the pride of American people to hold dear the land of the free and the brave. While we can say this is brainwashing or nationalistic, I say what is wrong with that really? Shouldn’t we be proud of our home countries?

As an expat, who has lived very little of my adult life in my home country, I still feel privileged to be able to say I am American. In fact, I think I appreciate the USA a lot more because I have lived away from it for so long. My national pride is probably stronger because I see it from the outside and through my travels realize how lucky we have been in the States. Opportunities are limitless, freedom is a right not a privilege and so much more.

Of course, every nation has dark sides to consider and areas left to grow in, but overall, I am proud to say Happy 240th Birthday to my country of citizenship! What a different world it would be if the USA did not exist.

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 042016
 

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_Winter of the World_ by Ken Follett

The Century Trilogy #2 following _Fall of Giants_, which I read about three years ago now continues with the next generation of characters during the World War II period. Following characters from Germany, Russia (Soviet Union), the US and Britain provides all different sides of the war time. Follett’s continuation of characters from the first novel makes it even more engaging and worth the read of the many pages of this novel.

As I do like historical fiction, despite my lack of attention to current events, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this and was excited to see the overlapping of characters. I was able to lose myself in their lives and feel almost as if I were there or even in a film engaged in the imagery provided. Follet also does a great job of including social changes and thoughts from the period that he is writing about. Overall, a big thumbs up from me! ๐Ÿ˜€

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Day 9: ย What place are you most grateful for?

Well, if you asked me this question before June 4, I probably would have thought up of some place I have traveled to or a place of my past. However, right now, right here, I am most thankful for 415. Without 415, we would be either totally homeless or forking out a load of money for a hotel that we could not afford. Thanks to the amazing generosity of our dear friends, we are able to stay in the 415 for free and have a sense of ‘home’ for the time-being. We are certainย we will have our own new home very soon, but in the meantime there is no other place I could be more grateful for than where we are right now. ๐Ÿ™‚

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 032016
 

Day 8: ย What book are you most grateful for?

Oh my what a very tough question for me…! There are so many wonderful books out there and reading is my absolute favorite form of escaping reality. I have been doing it for as long as I can remember – reading to enter another world. ๐Ÿ˜› I think, however, the book I am most grateful for is _Anne of Green Gables_ by LM Montgomery. Why? First, I found my kindred spirited BFF through a mutual love of this novel/series. Also, it was probably the first proper story about adoption that I could relate to in some shape or form. While for most, this is a story of a strong-willed, free-spirited red-headed young girl whose short temper and mischievous nature got her into a number of tangles, then she grew up to be a role model and made her adopted parents proud; for me, it was much more than this. It was hope. So, I am grateful that this book was written and also so popular to become great films too! ๐Ÿ˜€

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Lately, I have been struggling a little bit mentally and emotionally. I suppose that I could say I have been depressed; though not in my bipolar way, but in a truly depressed kind of way. In fact, I have been sleeping far more than I usually do and it is not due to vacation-mode settling in; but rather more of another form of escape since reading was not working either.

One of the reasons for this state of mind is a sense of being trapped. Now, freedom is one of my greatest values in life. I need to feel free to feel like myself. It was something that became central to my existence from the time I went to university. It is a value that I struggled with due to my background of not having any control over my early years. Since then, I have prided myself in the fact that I have held good jobs, managed my money just enough to ensure I could travel or have the lifestyle that I want, etc.

Since deciding to quit my job, circumstances have changed and with a number of changes happening all at once, I am, for the first time in my life, in a situation where I feel trapped again. One reason I held off on ever wanting to get married again was also that sense of responsibility for another person. Now, I do not feel trapped by being married, but together we have created a status that has crippled my sense of freedom.

This is, of course, temporary and I know that in due time everything will be even better than it was before. Therefore, it is a matter of getting my head back on straight, my heart full again, and my focus on what matters most. We are both healthy and generally happy. I have a lot of freedom in terms of time, which is a new experience that I can focus on enjoying. I have a lot of freedom in what I can do each day as far as exercise, yoga, pool-time, etc.

Thus, if I keep my eye on the prize, I know that all is well. ๐Ÿ™‚

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 022016
 

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_Awaken the Giant Within_ by Anthony Robbins

I read this some time ago and am not sure how I did not write about it earlier, but in any case, it was a book recommended by a friend, especially when I started on the coaching path.

Tony Robbins has been a big name inspirational coach for a while. M and I even found a common bond in liking what TR says. In fact, M has gone on a retreat and walked on fire with TR. ๐Ÿ™‚ While I am not quite that gung-ho about things, I did enjoy the read. Robbins gives some tips and tricks for overcoming negative behavioral patterns, ways to take control of finances and relationships – all using the power within ourselves and becoming aware of how we limit ourselves. By awakening our inner giants and allowing them to guide our lives, we can have even more fulfilling and happier lives.

All of this is connected to meditation, subconscious minds, positive affirmations and the like. It is good for me to be reminded about this book in a currently stressful time. I can take control from within! ๐Ÿ˜›

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Day 7: ย What memory are you grateful for?

Memories are a mixed bag for me. Some aspects of life I would like to not remember. Some aspects of life I wish I had more memories for which to recall them. Some day I may not have any memories at all. ๐Ÿ˜› If I sort through my limited memories as a child, I would say I am most grateful for the one when I was playing in the snow, having a carefree day, laughing and not thinking about anything. It is perhaps the last time I ever felt completely relaxed. It is perhaps the reason why I hesitate to ever let loose again as it was the day when my life was to be taken down a miserable path for the next 3 years. However, before knowing that, I can recall my laughing, smiling and the joy of playing. So, I am grateful to have this memory. ๐Ÿ™‚

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

Jul 012016
 

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_The 21-day Sugar Detox:  Bust Sugar & Carb Cravings Naturally_ by Diane Sanfilippo

At the end of September (yes it has been a while) a friend asked if I wanted to join her in doing a 21-day sugar detox. I had been thinking about it for a while – since going Paleo – but had never really pushed myself into it. This was a good chance to do so. She recommended this book to use for recipes, etc.

It is a good book to start with as it explains what sugar does to the body and provides a lot of recipes to use throughout the 21-days including different levels depending on your purpose and metabolism or exercise patterns. Although it was nearly impossible to cut out alcohol, I did try to stick to less sugary ones such as tequila (yay!) as much as possible. Some days I had to cheat as it is hard to change a diet when your partner is a bit resistant to it. ๐Ÿ˜›

Still, I learned quite a bit from this and the book. There is also a Facebook page and website to help those who want a community in the struggle to remove one of the most harmful and addictive substances there is out there – and it is part of our daily lives!!!!

So, I recommend everyone try to remove as much sugar from your diet – that means breads/carbs as well – and see how your body can change. ๐Ÿ˜€

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Day 6:  What in nature are you grateful for?

Hm…this is a difficult one…. When I was a younger adult, I used to take a lot of walks in the parks (in Japan mostly) and tried to be more in touch with nature. As a child, I was mostly allergic to everything outside on the farm, so I developed a bit of a love-hate relationship to nature. Since moving to the desert, I hardly consider nature at all and, in fact, when I return to ‘natural’ places, I end up feeling sick again like when I was a child. Thus, it is difficult to consider this. For some reason, when I think about nature, I think woods, trees, flowers and the like. I generally do not conjure up the sea and beach. However, if I acknowledge the sea as nature (of course it is!), then I am most grateful for the ocean and beaches. I am not allergic to either of them! ๐Ÿ˜›

The ocean and sea has always made me feel small in the amazing power and awesomeness of the water. While I have always held a fear of drowning and do not like to consider the life that exists below, I still feel inspired by the ocean. The waves crashing onto the sand provides me with awe and peace at the same time. I truly feel the strength and beauty of the earth and its creator when I stand at the edge of the water or float in its powerful rolling waves. So, yes, I am grateful for the ocean/sea.

~T ๐Ÿ˜€

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